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Why Do We Always Feel the Need to Prove Ourselves

Sometimes, a simple movie scene or a single line can touch us more deeply than hours of deep thinking. One such scene comes from a film where a young man, who stopped growing after the age of ten, joins a new workplace. He’s smart, energetic, and confident but still mocked because of his height, something he had no control over.

One day, a senior colleague kindly tells him, “You should prove yourself so people start seeing your skills, not your appearance.”

The young man’s reply is thoughtful, not angry. With a calm smile, he says:

“Why should I have to prove anything? When regular people prove themselves, they’re praised like superheroes. But when someone like me proves, I’m just treated as normal. I don’t agree with that.”

This line hits hard. It shows a deep truth we often ignore. From a young age, we’re told to always prove something, our talent, intelligence, looks, or skills. And in the process, we forget how to just be ourselves.

A Life Spent Proving Is Not Fully Lived

These days, even young children feel the pressure to prove they’re “good enough.” Whether it’s getting high marks, winning medals, or looking a certain way, achievements are often used as a way to judge a person’s worth, not celebrate them.

This constant pressure makes kids grow up feeling unsure of themselves. They begin to see themselves through other’s eyes instead of their own.

But really, why do we need to prove anything at all?

Who decided our value is based on a list of expectations?

Success isn’t about holding a trophy. Happiness isn’t about getting applause. These are personal feelings, not things we need to show off.

Stop Comparing, Start Living

Proving yourself often means chasing approval. But when we’re always trying to meet someone else’s expectations, we slowly lose our own voice. We limit our dreams just to fit into what others think is “right” or “successful.”

But what if we changed that mindset?

What if we lived each day not to be better than others, but to enjoy our own journey, with curiosity, effort, and joy?

Do Your Best, Without Needing to Be The Best

There’s a big difference between doing your best and trying to prove you're the best.

Doing your best comes from the heart—it brings joy and meaning.

Proving you’re the best? That’s a never-ending race that can leave you feeling tired and empty.

Every human being, young or old, deserves love, respect, and dignity. Not because they’ve “earned” it by ticking boxes, but simply because they exist. It’s time we shift from a proving culture to a living culture.

Let’s help our children grow with confidence, not by seeking approval, but by understanding and trusting themselves.

In the End…

Life is not a courtroom. You don’t need to justify your existence.

You’re not here to meet others’ standards, you’re here to live your truth.

So to that young man in the movie, and to anyone who’s ever felt “not enough”, here’s a reminder:

You don’t need to prove anything. You just need to be.

Be kind. Be strong. Be yourself. That’s more than enough.

By Sahasras Gee